We really thought it never would happen, but we finally got to talk to Milf. Since we never linked up for her for a post-Real Chance of Love interview, the interview below includes questions pertaining to both that show and her most recent one, I Love Money 2. Below, Milf explains why she skipped out on the Real Chance of Love Reunion, gives us an update of her family struggles that had her in tears when we last saw her on TV, talks about all the hate she received as a result of vying for Real’s heart and muses on her past as a nude model.
I’m glad to connect with you finally. I didn’t know if you went AWOL after I Love Money wrapped, since you weren’t at the Real Chance of Love reunion.
No! Not at all! My son and I have reunited, and that happened during the holiday season. It wasn’t planned – we were reunited through family, not court. So I had to take it as it came. I wasn’t planning on missing the reunion, it was just that I had no option but to work on my relationship with my family.
I thought maybe you were fed up with everything after having such a hard time on the shows.
Nah. Real and I stayed in contact after the show. I have nothing negative to say about him. It’s a tough situation to be an up-and-coming star with so many women around. I felt like he kept a lot of his integrity in spite of it all. He was really there for me in a way that I’d never experienced.
It was pretty surprising that you didn’t make it to the end, based on your connection.
He let me know that he’d rather let me go than see me continue being hurt. I wanted to go at that point, too. The things that were being said about me and my family at that point were hard to take. It was no longer worth it to stay on the show to look for love. If it was real, it would have happened after.
Do you think all that drama stemmed from jealousy?
Hands down. I don’t hate on people to get money or love. In those kind of environments, though, you’re not going to win unless that’s what you do. I think I genuinely won part of Real’s heart.
Was I Love Money an easier experience?
No! At least with Real Chance I had one ally: Real. I knew with the way I was being put in the box every time on I Love Money that there was no benefit to me appearing intellectually capable at all. Or even physically! At that point, all of my work for the team was getting overlooked. The whole point to looking as stupid as possible was to appear nonthreatening.
So after employing that strategy, were you surprised to be eliminated?
I had to fight Cali, and I can’t think of one time in my life that fighting and losing my composure has ever benefitted my life. It’s always caused more problems than it solved. So I’m not the typical girl on the show who can’t wait to beat a bitch down. That’s not how I want to represent myself and it’s not how I want the world to look. I think it was the lack of tension between Cali and I that caused me to be eliminated.
Did you bond with anyone on the show?
No! There are no friends. I’m really good at overhearing things. You’ll hear, “Let’s get together as women and get these guys out of here,” and then you’ll turn around and hear, “We’re from the same area, so…” or, “We did a show together.” There was a lot of duplicity. Everyone was being manipulative. Mass-manipulation isn’t something I excel at. I’m learning, though! (Laughs)
I thought Saaphyri had your back.
Her keeping me there over her friend that she’d done another show with was a big deal, and I had a lot of respect for Saaphyri’s game in life. She’s gone through a lot and she won Charm School. But let me clear something up: Buddha told me his last name is “Masters.” That’s why I made a sarcastic comment about him being the master of the house. It wasn’t meant on any other level. In the beginning of the show, I paid little attention to him. I can’t think of anyone besides Becky and Frenchie who didn’t want him in that way. After he got picked, he pursued me. And not in an aggressive way, but more aggressively than the other women. He asked me to stay in his room. He pulled me on his lap. He thought for sure I’d be a pawn to keep him there.
When you had the confrontation with him, were you afraid for your safety?
When I’m in a situation like that, I forget my size. So no, I was not afraid of him. I didn’t see him as someone who was gonna go out like that on TV, at least. I was disappointed in him when he hurt Saaphyri. I asked him to apologize to her before the butt-kissing challenge. I told him I wouldn’t throw it if he said he was sorry. That was the biggest issue to me, the way he man-handled her.
During your exit interview, you said that you did the show for your son. If the situation is that desperate, why not take on a sure bet to make money, like an actual job?
A large part of my income before I had my son was through fitness modeling. Because I’m not the average 9-to-5er, marketing myself as a product is what I’ve been used to doing. I’m an unmarried woman who had a biracial baby. I’ve faced a lot in society. I just stepped up into the spotlight because I wasn’t going to hold my head down. I’m gonna find love and I’m gonna find money. Granted, I’d never again go to do it on TV. And I’ll be honest with you: my son’s father is a slightly famous individual. This was a chance to get out from behind his shadow. So basically, my decision was specific to my life than that of any other single mother. They can’t compare their struggles to mine.
So what are you doing now about it?
I do personal training. Prior to the shows, I was working for a gym and basically getting $9 a session because my certification expired, even though I’ve been doing this for 15 years. Now, basically, I have a website where I talk people through training and getting ready for fitness. I’m also about to do another photo shoot.
Some of the adult modeling you’ve done…
That was all done before I had my son. There was one photo shoot I did before I was born. There was only one after he was born that involved nudity, but it was in the same style as what I did before. What I’m I gonna tell my son? “I’m willing to do that before you were born because it was with a cool name like Playboy, but when we’re struggling after leaving your father, I’m not gonna do it for us?”
Yeah. And it’s amazing that you got to work with Anna Nicole!
Yeah. That was before my son.
I know. I’m not judging you. You worked with an icon. What do you think of being called Milf?
At first, I hated it. But it does depict my life’s struggle. I am a mother and I’ve marketed myself in a sexual manner. That duplicity for the sake of survival is summed up by my name. I don’t let my son see the shows, though. He has no idea his mother is Milf. No matter what people think of me as being really sexual, before Real Chance, I went through a long period of celibacy.
How long?
A very long time. A time that’s not believable: it was close to a year. That’s not to say there weren’t options, it just wasn’t my priority. And then you’re locked up in a house and pursuing somebody and you realize that you have urges and feelings that you’ve been taught by your own family that you didn’t have a right to feel. If you’re a single mom, you’re not supposed to need those things.
One of the big moments of Real Chance happened when you were in the limo bickering with Bay Bay Bay and you said to remember the next time she kissed Real, his lips had been all over you. You later took it back, but that was the truth, right?
No. I mean, we did kiss and lay next to each other all night, but there wasn’t an explicit act that went on. That was just bitches talking s***. I let myself get caught up in some female s*** about a man. You’re up there kissing him and saying I’m disgusting, and yet he’s wanting me in his room. What does that tell you about you?
What about the Risky confrontation, do you regret that?
It was timing. Bay Bay Bay had gone Biblical on me, and Risky walked by. Truth be told: I had heard and known things prior to that. She made a smart-ass comment to me at a time when I was feeling vulnerable. It was like, I’m so sick of going back and forth with Bay Bay Bay, I’m just gonna have my little reality Jerry Springer moment with the only one who can bounce back from me if I get that angry.
So, it’s great that you’re back with your son.
I got what I wanted out of the shows. I didn’t have to use the courts to do it. Media’s just as powerful as government.
Did you get your son back as a direct result of the shows?
Yes. And it was a direct result of people in my life who were treating each other terribly because of racial and cultural differences now had to get together and talk about what was going on.
What was it? They saw you talking about the situation and it ignited reconciliation?
My son’s father’s mother, a black woman, got involved. She connected with my mother, who had my son. He wasn’t taken by C.P.S. She addressed the situation, that what was going on with the family to punish her wasn’t going to benefit him.
You to Real that your mother took your son because you smoked too much…
There were a lot of factors. Part of my struggle is when I was a younger individual, I was around family that had a hydroponic lifestyle as a means of support. This for my mother was unacceptable, and I became a hypocrite when I had my son and excluded all these people from our lives and a lot of support for me to make her happy. Saying that on TV was a general way of not addressing that bigger picture. The bigger picture was that I’d been in volatile situations with his father, and by keeping my son from me, my family thought they could prevent me from going back into that.
Last time we saw you on TV, you were crying about your family. It seems that things have turned around for you.
I’m not rich, but I’m OK with being me.
Subject: The Celebreality Interview - Milf 
Mon Mar 23, 2009 11:42 pm
